“for the view of most Nyakyusa is that a girl should become accustomed to her husband gradually and that it is good for her to visit him from time to time, sweeping his house, cleaning the byre, drawing water and cooking for him, and learning the art of love-making with him and no one else. While she is still very immature it is insisted that he should only have intercourse with her inter crura, but when she is approaching puberty he often has full intercourse with her. No legal case can be brought against him in court if he does so, provided that he has not forced or frightened her, but his friends may tell him he is foolish, and is “teaching his wife adultery”, since now he can have no proof, in the physical examination at puberty, that she has not slept with other men” (for an historical analysis, see also Wilson, 1977:p111-8).
In the seclusion hut/
bride’s hut, a “centre for sex play”, “[…] intercourse inter crura is permitted, and no “husband” can claim damages if
his betrothed wife lies with another young man there, unless penetration has
taken place”. The girl receive advise on sexual mores and menses, and are
examined for virginity (p96-9).
Ngonde boys from age
10 to marriage live in separate villages, and homosexuality was condoned
provided it was mutually agreeable; polygyny would have facilitated the
practice, and there are no observations on the equivalent in girls, who marry
D. F., Growing Up Sexually.
Last revised: Sept 2004
 “Early Spanish accounts also documented the Nahua practice of bathing children at birth to
remove the contamination of their parents’ sexual activity, since it was
believed that sexual fluids could pollute the child (Burkhart 1989:p113; López
Austin 1980, I:p326, 336; Sullivan 1966:p83)”. Monaghan, J. (1996/2001)
Physiology, Production, and Gendered Difference: The Evidence from Mixtec and
Other Mesoamerican Societies, in Klein, C. F. (Ed.) Gender in Pre-Hispanic
 See also Murray and Roscoe (1998:p174-6), op.cit.
G. (1936) An Introduction to Nyakyusa Society, Bantu Studies 10:253-92, see p264, 272-3. Reprinted, with certain
 “We have no evidence to suggest that the girls in any general way dislike sleeping with their husbands before puberty, rather the reverse; and the men say: “It is good, it accustoms a girl to her husband”. But some girls dislike the particular men to whom they are betrothed” (1936:p258).